Let’s make some lists!

There are no right or wrong answers here, you might find yourself with overlap across these lists, you might have more names than you can count, or be struggling to think of 10. Trust that its all information, simply providing you insight on your relationship systems.

<aside> 🗺️ the 10 people you see the most

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<aside> ✍️ (children, partner, neighbour coworkers)

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<aside> 🗺️ the 10 people you talk to the most

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<aside> ✍️ (friends, family, therapist, neighbour)

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<aside> 🗺️ the 10 people closest to you

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<aside> 🗺️ the communities you are part of

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<aside> ✍️ (the office, volleyball, neighbourhood)

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<aside> 🗺️ Make a list of needs in your life.

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<aside> ✍️ (this list can be comprehensive, or you can be specific, up to you)

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• Intimacy – feeling known and understood
• Companionship – sharing daily experiences
• Social - Chit-chat and lightness
• Fun/Adventure/Play
• Learning/Growth
• Support/care – physically/practically
• Emotional support – help with decision making etc.
• Spiritual connection – shared experiences, input, mentorship etc.
• Service/purpose/role/identity – fulfilling responsibilities (note that some relationships in our lives invite us to give more than we receive overtly)
• Other?

Relationship Inventory

Write out the needs you listed above (or those from our examples), into the spaces below. Put names of people/groups in your life under each need (some names might go in multiple categories) - (Note that you are welcome to add paid professionals to this list, such as a therapist, physio therapist, or pastor, etc.)

Remember, there are no right or wrong answers in this exercise, you might find yourself with a very small number of people that fill many categories, or you may find a whole host of names spread across these lists, or you might have a number of relationships in your life that you realize don’t fit anywhere on this list. It’s all just information!

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Bring more Intention to an Existing Relationships

Picking one relationship or group, and answer the following questions for yourself:

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<aside> 🗺️ Is there mis-alignment on purpose?

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<aside> 🗺️ What requests could you make?

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<aside> 🗺️ When you take a look at your lists, what do you notice?

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<aside> 🗺️ Identify Gaps - do you have core needs that aren’t being met?

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<aside> 🗺️ Are there people that are in your life that don’t go into one of these categories? What are the purposes of these relationships?

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